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curated connections

intentional magic

Events and introductions hand picked by relationship experts. We distill the research on compatibility. You show up with your authentic self. The magic will follow.

How It Works

All dating apps optimize for swiping. Most singles or friendship oriented social events are organized around only one activity. We optimize for what the research actually says predicts meaningful connections — then get you into a room with the right people, in person, fast.

A few short (and FREE) questionaires, grounded in relationship research, get past what people say about themselves to what's actually true.

We review your answers and match you to a small, in-person gathering built around real compatibility, not geography.

Every event is guided by relationship experts — professionals who know how to read a room, ease the awkward moments, and help things go well. Want more support? One-on-one coaching is available anytime.

When there is a mutual connection at an event, we share contact information and encourage you to follow up in 48 hours. If not, we integrate feedback (yours and ours) and send the next invite.

The Quizzes

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basic information, social preferences, availability

how you show up with others

how you bond and love

what you won't compromise on

We believe real sparks start with truly being seen. Our process integrates several methods to get to know you at a deeper level, allowing us to facilitate more meaningful connections. Each quiz is designed to capture a different aspect of your interpersonal style and preferences, including your core values. Take all four for the best matches!

Curated Social Events in Rochester

Hosted by relationship experts, our events are designed to minimize the awkward and maximize fun and meaningful connections. We review all client quiz answers and develop the event details and invite list to match. The more quizzes you answer, the more refined our matches can be.

Upcoming Events

  • Speed Dating - Romance Event for Men and Women 30s/40s
    Speed Dating - Romance Event for Men and Women 30s/40s
    Sun, Nov 08
    Jordan River Cafe
    At least 4 coffee dates in one morning! Speed dating, the alcheMeets way—more meaningful conversations, less pressure. Enjoy great coffee and sweet treats while getting to know potential matches, with thoughtful questions to help you move beyond the usual small talk.
  • Happy Hour @ Strangebird - Romance Event for 40s/50s
    Happy Hour @ Strangebird - Romance Event for 40s/50s
    Fri, Nov 13
    Strangebird
    Join us for great food and drinks at one of Rochester's best craft breweries. Ticket includes shared pizzas and pub snacks and NA drinks. Amazing selection of craft beers, cocktails, wine available for you to purchase. Jenny and Jess will be there as hosts to introduce people and help people connect
  • Coffee and Puzzles - Friendship event for women
    Coffee and Puzzles - Friendship event for women
    Sat, Nov 14
    Jordan River Cafe
    Join us for a peaceful Saturday morning of coffee, sweet treats, puzzling and good conversations. Jess and Jenny are there to host, introduce people and facilitate connections for those we think could be a good fit. Not a puzzle person? Join us for the coffee and conversation!

Connect with us

alcheMeets is for EVERYONE looking to meet people in real life for friendship or romance. Our Process and our Presence are designed to help you find your people.

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